Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Fingerprint Fiasco

OMG!  Is all I have to say about fingerprinting!!!  Let me just tell you about fingerprinting and criminal record checks.  So, this past Friday we had a meeting with our adoption specialist at the agency.  Everything was going great at the meeting then she says....."by the way, did I give you the fingerprinting cards and information?"  I was like "no."  She then proceeds to tell us how she has forgotten to give this to us earlier and we need to get it done as soon as possible.  You see, we must have a criminal record check for the FBI and the GBI to be approved as adoptive couple through our agency.  Why, I don't know.  I guess because the child may come to us from out of state and they must know if we have a criminal record throughout the U.S.  So, okay, she tells us we must have two types of fingerprinting done.  The FBI needs the old school style of inked fingerprinting and GBI uses the Live Scan fingerprinting.  Now, here comes the shocking news....the FBI record check will need to be mailed to West Virginia and could take up to 13 weeks to come back!!!!  I was like, OMG!  Why did you wait so long to give this to us?  This should have been the first thing you gave us to do.  She said we should try to get these done today so it could get in the mail.  We leave there at 2:15 on Friday afternoon.  Our agency is in Atlanta near Perimeter Mall.  Immediately, we get on the phone with Hall County Sheriff's office.  They say "yes, we do the inked fingerprinting cards Monday-Friday, 9-5."  "Awesome!  We will be there," Chad tells the man on the phone.  After gobbling down some Chickfila, we high-tail it up 400, rolling into the Hall County Detention Center at 3:45.  By the way....if you don't remember, it was pouring rain on Friday afternoon.  As we pull into the parking lot of the detention center...the bottom falls out of the sky.  I'm also trying to complete the form we need to take in with us to get the fingerprints.  So, here we go into the door.  The officer at the door says, " may I help you?"  I say, "we need our fingerprints done."  He says, "go to the other door, please."  You gotta be kidding me!  Back into the rain?!  So, here we go....to the next door.  We go in and walk up to the plexiglass window.  "May I help you," says the girl.  Me, trying to be the nicest person I can be....."Hi," (with a fake smile), "we need to get our fingerprints done."  Without saying a word, she gets out a sticky note and writes something down.  I peer through the plexiglass to be nosy.  Metro PCS??!!  That's what she's writing!  I don't need a cell phone, lady.  I need my fingerprints done!  She looks back at me, "The jail does fingerprints Monday-Thursday, 9-5 only.  And, they don't do them for adoptions.  You may go to the Metro PCS on Atlanta Hwy, they do them for us.  Here's the number."  I say, "Well, why did someone at the jail just tell us they would do them today and that they will do the inked prints?"  She's like, "I don't know, but we don't do them on Fridays at all."  Can you believe this? We thank the nice lady and head back into the rain.  Luckily, we didn't get a ticket because we parked in a reserved spot at the detention center but we weren't even there for 10 minutes at the most.  We get into the truck and I immediately call Metro PCS.  The lady who answered the phone says they do prints until 5:30.  Good.  But, they only have the Live Scan.  My heart sank.  By this time, I am furiously frustrated!  What to do now?  Chad decides to call our friendly sheriff's deputy, Phil.  He tells us to call the courthouse to find out what they suggest.  We call there to speak with the person in charge of adoptions for Hall County.  Guess what?  She's out of town and Monday is a furlough day!!  What have I done in  a past life to deserve this??!!  By this time, it's after 5:00.  What a fiasco we have gotten ourselves into.  What are we to do?  We must have the inked prints for the FBI and we needed it done---last month!  Also, we need the Live Scan prints done for the GBI but we need to register on a website prior to having those done.  So, no go for launch today on that one---our mission was scrubbed. 

On to Saturday night.  The youth at our church hosted a soup dinner as a fundraiser.  Chad made a crock pot full of corn chowder for them.  So, we took it to the church and stayed to eat with them.  While there, we were discussing our fingerprint fiasco from Friday.  After hearing our story, Meritta--our pastor's wife, started thinking of who we could speak with about getting the prints done.  Sunday morning she asks me if we have found a place to get them done yet.  I told her no and that we were so frustrated we weren't sure what we needed to do.  Well, she remembered that a gentleman who goes to church with us is a former FBI agent.  BINGO!  Later that afternoon, we get a call from him.  Meritta and Ricky had called him on our behalf.  He told us that he would need to call around to find out who has the ink...but he was sure he would find a place for us to have the ink prints done. We have lift off!  On Monday morning around 8:30 I notice that I have a voice mail.  It's from our FBI friend, Terry.  He has found out that Dawson County Jail has the ink and they would be glad to do the prints for us.  So, I sent Chad a message to call Dawson County to find out the times.  When he called, they told him they do prints until 5:00.  So, at 4:00 we meet in Dawsonville to head to the jail.  Halfway there, I can't find my wallet.  Thinking that I had left it in my car, we turn around and go back to Kroger.  It's not there.  Guess where it was???  It had fallen out in the floorboard of the truck,  so I had it all along.  Oops!  So, here we go....heading back to the jail, er, I mean the detention center.  We get there at like 4:30.  The "overly nice" lady up front says, "we only do prints until 4:00."  Here's when it almost got nasty.  "Listen lady, we spoke with someone earlier who said they did it until 5:00.  We have driven like a bat out of Hades to get here."  The really nice lady says, "let me call someone to see."  I'm like, "you better or I'm going back there."  Well, it turns out since the guy told Chad they did it until 5:00, he said he would do the prints for us.  Yippee!!! That guy was awesome!  He made up for the "overly nice lady" at the front.  After he did the prints, I was going to pay him the $10 fee to do the prints.....he said not to worry about it.  Amazing....the Lord was in this the entire time.  He knew what we needed.  I prayed on Sunday that we would get the help we needed to do the inked prints....God answered in His time.  It reminds me of a song that goes, "Down the road comes Jesus, right on time."

Yesterday, I went to the Post Office, got a Money Order to send with the fingerprints and I mailed the package Priority Mail to the FBI in West Virginia.  Now we wait----"I'm waiting on You, Lord."  Today, we are going to the Metro PCS on Atlanta Hwy to have our Live Scan prints done for the GBI.  Those prints and criminal record check will be back in 48 hours.  I still don't understand why we can't use Live Scan prints for both FBI and GBI.  It seems all the counties around use the Live Scan for both...I don't know why our agency won't accept it.  But, it's not for me to understand.  You can't tell me that the Lord didn't have control over this situation, because I know He did.  We would have never found a place to have the inked prints done if the Lord had not been working on both ends of the situation.  I give thanks and honor and praise to Him.

Keep praying everyone.....the Lord is good.  He is watching over us right now.  I feel like we are being blessed beyond measure during this time of going through the process of adoption.  The Lord is in control of this situation.  I know in His plan, He has a child already chosen for us and it truly will be our child.  We are still working on our profile book....it's a slow process because we need to make certain that every word and every picture are chosen precisely. 

Until next time, may God richly bless you,

Lorissa

Monday, March 8, 2010

While I'm Waiting......

This song by John Waller really speaks to my soul.  It gives me strength and encouragement.  Here is the link to it on You Tube:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jrzkRwDXhP4

Song lyrics:

I'm waiting
I'm waiting on You, Lord
And I am hopeful
I'm waiting on You, Lord
Though it is painful
But patiently, I will wait

I will move ahead, bold and confident
Taking every step in obedience
While I'm waiting
I will serve You
While I'm waiting
I will worship
While I'm waiting
I will not faint
I'll be running the race
Even while I wait

I'm waiting
I'm waiting on You, Lord
And I am peaceful
I'm waiting on You, Lord
Though it's not easy
But faithfully, I will wait
Yes, I will wait
I will serve You while I'm waiting
I will worship while I'm waiting
I will serve You while I'm waiting
I will worship while I'm waiting
I will serve you while I'm waiting
I will worship while I'm waiting on You, Lord

I found this website (http://lyrics.christiansunite.com/lyrics_3182_3.shtml) that has a description of the meaning of the song by John Waller.  Here is what he wrote about it:

"The explanation for this song is simple, I was waiting on God and I was hurting when I wrote the lyrics. I probably wouldn't have written a song if my friend, Mike, hadn't encouraged me to document what I was going through during that time. I'm sure there are few people who can't relate to this song, but the important thing to remember while we're waiting on God is to not just wait but to actively wait. Serve, worship and be faithful with what you have, where you are... "even while (you) wait." - John Waller (2007) "This wasn't one of those songs that the revelation preceded where I was, because I had been truly already waiting 15 years at the time when I wrote the song. I wanted to pose the question, 'What do you do when you are waiting on God?' The answer is you continue to be faithful where you are. You continue to serve and worship while you are waiting. I never dreamed "While I'm Waiting" might end up in a movie. I didn't even find out it was being considered for FIREPROOF until it was already done. Everyone who hears it finds it to be a 'me too' kind of song." - John Waller (2009)

Every time I hear the song or think of the words, cold chills run over me.  If you haven't heard it....I encourage you to listen to it.  I know it will bless you as much as it has me and Chad.

I hope everyone has a blessed week.  Stay strong in the Lord and He will strengthen you.

The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear?  the Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?  Psalm 27:1

Thursday, March 4, 2010

Profiles and Pixie Dust.......

I had such good intentions of posting a new blog entry over the weekend.  Then, I decided I would write while we were out for snow.  Since neither one of those got done.....here I am writing today.  First off, I want to thank everyone out there who has been reading the blog so far.  I have gotten so much positive feedback from all who have read.  I feel truly blessed to have such a wonderful group of friends and family who are all so supportive.  Keep up the praying!  I can feel the prayers going up on our behalf. 

One of the things we have learned from Bethany Christian Services is how we should network with others to get our "story" out there.  A couple of you have told me that you have shared the blog with your friends who may not even know either one of us and that those people are praying for our adoption.  I want to encourage all of you to keep it up!  By networking through our friends and family, more people hear about our story.  You never know who may know someone who knows someone who might have a daughter or a niece who may be pregnant and wants to give her child up for adoption.  I also feel that by networking through all of you, more prayers will go up on our behalf.  We need prayers to give us strength, patience, and understanding.  I know those things only come from the Lord.

This week we have started to gather a sampling of pictures from throughout our lives to put together our profile book.  Our profile book will be how the birthmother chooses us to be the parents of her child.  In other words, it should be perfect!  In my mind, I'm thinking.....yeah right.  How in the world am I supposed to put together a profile book to help someone choose us???  We should include pictures and writings--like a letter to the birthmother.  One of the educational classes we took through Bethany taught us that we should choose each word and each picture very carefully as we place it in our profile book.  AAHHH!!!  How do we do that?  I'm not a writer.  If I write the profile, I'll be like......."Uh, uh, we go to Disney World about 4 times a year, uh, we love children, uh, we knew each other before we started kindergarten......."  I will need all the help I can get with the writing....I guess that will be Chad's job.  He has a higher education degree than I do.  HA! But, he is only a math teacher so I will have to proofread it for him!  I have been looking for pictures this week and have been trying to find a few pictures from each major chapter in our lives.  If any of you reading this have any pictures of Chad and me together at school or church, I might like to see them.  I've been trying to find a couple of pictures from church when we were little...like at the Christmas play, VBS, or Sunday school.  What Bethany suggests for us to put in the profile are pictures showing us doing something....not just portraits or posed pictures----if that makes sense.

Yesterday I received a new packet of paperwork to complete for our home study.  I never realized how much "stuff" we would be answering for the agency.  With all of the classes we've taken, the self study, the home study, and the statements of faith......I think all parents should go through these things.  In the long run, it will make me a better parent I know.  However, if all parents were to go through the self study, the educational classes, and the self study.....we would not have the behavior problems in the classroom that I see on a daily basis in high school.  I think parents would be better prepared to teach their children how to be respectful and responsible.  Ok, I'm off my soapbox. 

In closing of this week's post....I want to give thanks to the Lord for His many blessings He has already given to me and my family.  Our pastor, Ricky Stone, is returning from the Holy Land today.  Our prayer was delivered to the Wailing Wall!  Thank you again everyone for reading and continuing to pray for our journey!